San Diego Fire Captain charged with DV (again)

San Diego Firefighter Captain Guilty in Domestic Violence Case

Capt. Michaels entered a guilty plea to one count of corporal injury to a spouse

We have the deepest respect for those who serve our community as firefighters, but this case is worth noting as Captain Michaels according to this article had been arrested on two previous occasions for domestic violence but charges were never filed as too often happens with both firefighters an law enforcement cases. If charges had been, perhaps this would not have happened and perhaps Captain Michaels would have gotten some help for his problem and yes- – the SCDV task force is very interested in helping offenders as well as that is the best way of stopping the violence and in our opinion it takes more than some anger management classes as they

Long Overdue!

Long overdue shelter for male victims of domestic violenceIn this Aug. 8, 2017 photo, a case worker at the Family Place shelter for men walks down stairs in Dallas. The Texas group has opened whats believed to be only the second shelter in the U.S. exclusively for men who are victims of domestic violence,

A Texas group has opened what’s believed to be only the second shelter in the U.S. exclusively for men who are victims of domestic violence as advocates say more men are seeking help amid changing views about male victims.

“We’re trying to help men understand that it’s OK to ask for help. It’s OK to have emotions. It’s OK to cry. It’s OK to be vulnerable,” said Paige Flink, CEO of The Family Place in Dallas.

Before opening the 21-bed shelter in a two-story home in May, Flink’s organization, like many others, housed male victims in hotels. But Flink said that not only was that becoming costly as the numbers grew, it also wasn’t an ideal arrangement for victims to get support.

“They get a lot of growth from being together,” Flink said.

The number of male victims calling the National Domestic Abuse Hotline and its youth-focused project — loveisrespect — has been growing. Last year, about 12,000 male victims called — about 9 percent of victims who identified their gender. That’s about double the about 5,800 male victim callers from 2010, said hotline spokeswoman Cameka Crawford.

“We believe that there are likely many more men who may not report or seek help for a number of reasons,” she said.

Flink said her organization has sheltered men abused by male partners, female partners or relatives. Some men bring their children. Flink believes one reason her group has seen an increase in male victims has to do with how Dallas police in recent years have been handling domestic abuse calls: They ask a series of questions and if someone is believed to be in danger, that person is immediately put on the phone with a shelter.

Some shelters house both men and women, but Denise Hines, a professor at Clark University in Massachusetts who researches domestic violence by women against men, said it’s more common for men to be put up in a hotel.

Valley Oasis in Lancaster, California, says it was the first in the U.S. to accept men into its shelter. “It created an environment where maybe for the first time for female victims and male victims that they could actually talk to members of the opposite sex that were not going to hurt them, that were not going to degrade them,” said CEO Carol Crabson, who said the shelter houses victims in cottages on its campus.

The first shelter in the U.S. solely for men opened two years ago in Batesville, Arkansas, a town of about 11,000. Patty Duncan, executive director of Family Violence Prevention Inc. , said that when a three-bedroom home was donated to her organization, her thoughts turned to male victims.

“I could just see that they were in the situation, but they didn’t have anybody that they thought they could call. In speaking with them, that was what they would tell you as well: ‘Where am I going to go? Who’s going to believe me? Here I’m a big guy, and who is going to think that I’m telling the truth?’ It just got me thinking,” Duncan said.

Duncan said that before Taylor House opened, male victims stayed at her group’s women’s shelter. But staffers, she said, have noticed that those staying at the all-male shelter seem to have more of a “freedom to be upset.”

“They don’t have to put on a strong kind of ‘I’m OK,'” she said, adding, “Their feelings can be hurt. They can be sad. They can be angry and they’re not seen as being aggressive. They can talk about how it felt to be physically hit and not feel emasculated.”

Hines said some men don’t even realize they’re being abused until they read pamphlets — mostly geared toward women — listing abuse signs. “If you are the man, that’s a very difficult process to figure out,” she said.

In the U.S., about 31 percent of men and 37 percent of women have experienced sexual violence, physical violence or stalking by an intimate partner, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

A 35-year-old man who spent almost three months at The Family Place’s shelter said he went there after feeling threatened by his boyfriend. Because his boyfriend didn’t physically hurt him, he said he hadn’t necessarily thought of his situation as abuse.

“It just opened up my eyes to realize that this isn’t the first time I’ve been in a situation like this and I just never thought of it being an abusive relationship,” said the man, who insisted that his name not be used out of fear for his safety.

“You never really hear about males being victims or even there being a male shelter,” he added.

ABC News



How a Nashville police officer helped save a domestic violence victim

A few months ago, Maria had one arm in a sling, while the other carried her infant baby.

The beating from her husband had put her in the hospital, and now that she was being discharged, she couldn’t go home. She had someone beside her though, the man carrying her bag into the Weaver Domestic Violence Center.

That man who escorted Maria to safety was the Metro Nashville police officer working her case. Without his kind insistence, guidance and protection, we know from our long experience at the YWCA that Maria and her child likely wouldn’t have made into safety.

Aside from the physical injuries, domestic violence inflicts trauma and toxic stress in its victims, and sadly, many view this as an unsolvable fact of life. One in four women will be a victim of domestic violence in her lifetime. More than 15.5 million children are exposed to domestic violence in the U.S. every year. And Tennessee now ranks fourth in the nation for the rate at which men kill women.

Nashville, we are better than this. And our community knows how to roll up its sleeves and get things done.

Just last year, Metro Nashville Police Chief Steve Anderson and Mayor Megan Barry adopted the Lethality Assessment Program, an innovative, proven strategy developed in Maryland to prevent domestic violence homicides and serious injuries.

In the past, Nashville police officers would simply hand out safety cards with a crisis number printed on it. Now, YWCA-trained police officers actually help victims make a phone call if the protocol determines they are in a lethal situation, and victims such as Maria are getting the help to become survivors.

Since the LAP has been implemented, the call volume at the YWCA hotline has doubled, and with limited resources, we work closely with community partners to give victims and their children a much better chance to break the cycle of violence and heal.

Undocumented Women Fear Reporting Violence

Fear of deportation is keeping many Latino women from reporting violence

Sheriff's deputy Marino Gonzalez talks with community members during a block meeting in Cudahy.Sheriff’s Deputy Marino Gonzalez talks with community members during a block meeting in Cudahy. (Brian van der Brug / Los Angeles Times)

“In Los Angeles, Latinos reported 3.5% fewer instances of spousal abuse in the first six months of the year compared with 2016, while reporting among non-Latino victims was virtually unchanged, records show. That pattern extends beyond Los Angeles to cities such as San Francisco and San Diego, which recorded even steeper declines of 18% and 13%, respectively. Domestic violence is traditionally an under-reported crime. Some police officials and advocates now say immigrants without legal status also may become targets for other crimes because of their reluctance to contact law enforcement.”

Affordable Housing


A study of 3,400 shelter residents in domestic violence programs across eight states found that housing is one of the main needs identified by survivors at the time of shelter entry; 84% participants reported that they needed help with finding affordable housing.

Source: Lyon, E., Lane, S., & Menard, A. (2008). Meeting Survivors’ needs: A multi-state study of domestic violence shelter experiences. Washington, DC: National Institute of Justice.